Social Cues

Vivi has started to... ahem... touch herself. It's been hot out and she's been going without clothes for the better part of the week so she's had more than enough opportunities to give her body a thorough review. It's not that I have a problem with her exploring her body. It's natural and normal and all that. I just really don't want to see her do it.

So the other day, while she was checking things out, I said, "Hey V, I know you like to touch there but it is your business and you should have some privacy."

"But Mama, I want to do it here."

"Well, some people may not want to see it. That's not polite."

"Mama, if you don't like it, don't look."

Well, I wasn't quite sure what to say to that. I mean it is how I feel about breastfeeding in public. I don't flaunt my breasts but if one or both of my babies needs to eat, the boobs have to come out. If someone doesn't like it, too bad. They probably don't live in this neighborhood anyway. If Vivi can't touch herself in her own house, then where can she?

I've pretty much decided to let the touching issue slide for the time being. Now if I could just take care of this problem:




Comments

  1. SnickolletAugust 12, 2009 at 4:21 PM

    I'm in serious potty-training mode with Riley right now, which means he's not wearing pants most of the time. Which means that he's walking around clutching his penis in his hand most of the time. I just let him. Maddie has not yet become so enamored of her privates. All in due time.

    In any case, they both LOVE to pick their noses. I just ask them politely to get a tissue, but it doesn't really help. sigh.

    FYI, my Wii Fit has not yet been unpacked since I got to Portland, but I used it a lot in Boston. Super-fun!

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  2. BrynneAugust 13, 2009 at 6:33 PM

    HAHAHAHAHA. What a picture. I love it.

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  3. KeriAugust 18, 2009 at 2:31 PM

    I tell my 4-year-old boy that I understand that he likes to touch himself but he can only do it in private which means he needs to go do it in the bathroom or in his bedroom. Hope that helps! =)

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