tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9182812782317591895.post5957528783244593058..comments2013-03-15T16:24:40.711-04:00Comments on Mama Mama Quite Contrary: Finding OutMama Mama Quite Contraryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09033437220422551511noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9182812782317591895.post-47464007991643207562010-06-11T14:12:04.305-04:002010-06-11T14:12:04.305-04:00It was a given we would find out. Hubby wouldn'...It was a given we would find out. Hubby wouldn't want me to know something like this when he didn't. And well, I was the kid who would gently lift the tape off the sides of gifts before Christmas. I can't wait for *anything*! <br /><br />When we found out our first was a boy, I was very happy...but wondered, "What the heck do you do with a *boy*?!" I was totally prepared to raise an independent little girl and help her revolt against all the sexist messages and expectations of society. But a boy?! That's a whole other list of responsibilities I couldn't wrap my head around.<br />Just a few months later, I started noticing little boys with their itty-bitty work boots and just thought they were SO cute! I never imagined raising a boy could be so much fun!<br /><br />When the tech asked us if we wanted to know on our second, we definitely did. We wanted to know if we were "Getting our girl". I was a bit surprised when she came out with it so quickly, "Its a girl"...we were so relieved. I am disabled, and find raising two toddlers *plenty* challenging enough. We knew we couldn't handle 3. Being outnumbered was just a *bad* idea. But if our second had been another boy...it would have been a challenging thing to stick to my decision.Amy Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02510407896988880062noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9182812782317591895.post-12065825485136047962010-06-09T22:23:42.028-04:002010-06-09T22:23:42.028-04:00I never had an ultrasound for either of my babies....I never had an ultrasound for either of my babies. I didn't feel they were necessary and I really wanted to be surprised at birth when it came to finding out the gender. I also didn't want mountains of blue clothes for my baby boy or pink clothes for my baby girl. This was my sneaky way at encouraging (or rather, forcing) people to buy gender neutral clothes. ;)<br /><br />With my first baby, I was sure I was having a girl so I was surprised it was a boy instead. The second, I had a feeling it was a boy even though everyone said it was a girl. I was right this time. ;) I'm happy that my pregnancies went so smoothly that an ultrasound wasn't necessary thus no slip-ups by anyone. But I'm Deaf so I could have missed any slip-ups spoken but definitely not the written ones. =P <br /><br />Did you ever talk to your midwife about this slip-up? Perhaps telling her your feelings will help you feel better but also encourage the midwife not to write gender information in her patient files...Kerihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03033383516920538778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9182812782317591895.post-10406966025959646452010-06-09T19:50:58.386-04:002010-06-09T19:50:58.386-04:00When I became pregnant, my husband and I agreed th...When I became pregnant, my husband and I agreed that we did not want to know the sex of the baby. Once we were told I was carrying twins, we felt that was surprise enough, and opted to learn the sexes when the time came. However, there was never a definitive shot of my daughter. The technician said she concluded that baby A was a girl because there was no evidence of any male parts, which I she said is hard to miss even if the baby isn't turned right. Still, I wasn't absolutely convinced until she was born. We had chosen two boys names and one girls name, just to be safe.Renaehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08318311170413043717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9182812782317591895.post-65426305782368872002010-06-09T13:10:00.197-04:002010-06-09T13:10:00.197-04:00we didn't find out either, mostly because its ...we didn't find out either, mostly because its one of the few times i thought i would like to be surprised. i understand the anger though, if only because its a choice that was taken out of your hands, when you already were dealing with enough surprises... :)Kate Hallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02096894906554704179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9182812782317591895.post-56885376569051101832010-06-08T21:20:34.263-04:002010-06-08T21:20:34.263-04:00We didn't find out ahead of time either. The f...We didn't find out ahead of time either. The first the the tech said "he" and I said "he?" and she said: "no, no I meant 'it'" and I remained innocent.<br />With baby number 2 we had no ultrasounds so no risk of finding out.<br />Definitely understand about the bristling over the lack of respect. There was absolutely no reason for anybody to be looking at gender after you specified that you didn't want to know!Amateur Authorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01858022070892929225noreply@blogger.com